"Each day you can produce one of two things - either excuses or you have results. Which one do you have today?”
This is a tweet that I recently posted because it really struck a chord with me. Why? Because this is the subject of many conversations I have with clients and colleagues.
So let's take a look and work out which is true for you:
I want you to think of just *one thing* that is frustrating you in your business right now.
Once you have that ‘one thing’ in mind, what was the next thought that popped into your head?
What came up?
Perhaps one of the following:
- So-and-so hasn't got back to me yet.
- So-and-so hasn't got back to me yet
- It's going to take too much time, money or resources.
- I'm not sure what to do next.
- I don't think this is right for me.
- I’m feeling lost, confused, unsupported.
All of these thoughts and feelings are quite valid. And, they are all excuses. You may prefer another word from 'excuses', but either way, if you are not progressing forward, making change and getting results, then I would like to suggest that the issue here is not truly any of the above.
In case you were unaware, I asked you to consider – ‘what’s one thing’ – deliberately, because how we do one ting is most likely how we do everything.
That is what I want to emphasize here - to make you aware of the fact that for all the time that you spend focusing on the external factors as to why something is not working for you, will continue to feel frustrated and stuck.
Here’s an example that my sound familiar to you:
A client of yours may be stalling and waiting for all the 'ducks to line up' before they commit to the next stage in their business. Perhaps they may even be frustrated by what appears to be a lack of support from you or another coach. Rather than get defensive with this, when this frustration is shared, drill down to the real issue by asking a series of simple questions.
In many cases, your clients don't take any action, including asking their coach (you) for the support they need. Once they become aware that they have everything they need to move forward, including the very help they came to you for in the beginning, they can often move forward very quickly. They will then start to ask for direction and how they can implement the information they already have, and very quickly they will be moving forward to their goals.
This 'excuse' mode probably does not stop here for this client of your. They most likely find that they are doing the same thing in their personal life with family and friends. Frustrated by their lack of support, yet, as soon as it is asked for, avenues for assistance and help become very evident.
So let me repeat:
How you do anything is how you do everything.
Think about that.
I’d love to know how this resonates with you. Please leave your thoughts below – and thanks!
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